The Flame Ignites

I had resigned myself to the idea that dancing, for me, was going to be an unfulfilled yearning. In my mid-twenties, I had told myself that I was already too old for dancing and I had best transfer all such longings into a more suitable outlet. The dancing flame was buried and I took up the violin. Playing the violin was enjoyable enough but, you see, I wasn’t a musician. I was a dancer. Continue reading “The Flame Ignites”

Forgiveness

Of all the qualities that make for a happy, healthy life and a progressive spiritual path, forgiveness is one of the most basic and important. Genuine forgiveness is not a common attitude of heart. It requires too much honesty and too little ego for the average person. It is a deep and solitary process known to the individual and God. Its ramifications are highly beneficial and, sometimes, miraculous. To have an ongoing practice of forgiveness is to extend one’s health, beauty, and agelessness, ever increasing one’s ability to face life with freshness and energy as one grows in wisdom and loses the burden of resentment. If one learns to become aware of hidden resentments and releases them then one will glow with lightness all through the years. The passing of years will have minimal effect as it is the accumulation of hurt, not the passing of years, which ages people most rapidly. Continue reading “Forgiveness”

Relationship Status

A mature person feels complete in all stages of life and personal relationship status. The soul is happy single, as well as in a relationship. It is a mistake to think that we need a certain type of relationship to be happy. If we crave a relationship when we are single, we will bring that wanting into any relationship with the consequent problems. To feel that destiny will provide us with what best meets our deepest needs is to be able to enter into any stage of life with confidence and a sense of completeness, not a sense of lack which someone else is supposed to fill. Continue reading “Relationship Status”

Balance

It is wise to do our very best in every area of life to improve our well-being and happiness. If we feel that our life is not balanced then it is a good idea to take stock of the energy we put into the various aspects of our being. Are we physically well? Do we need more exercise? Do we respect our body by giving it what it needs to eat? Are we physically ill in some way? Ignoring one’s physical problems is hardly a recipe for health. Are we mentally stressed? Do we take enough time each day, week, and year to relax and relieve our nervous system? Can we organise and prioritise our life so that we not suffering from constant nervous exertion? Many of our time problems are really priority issues. Do we challenge our mental capacities? Do we read and think about issues of importance to us? Do we take the opportunities to further our knowledge, understanding and, if appropriate, qualifications in our fields of interest? Do we monitor our emotions so that they do not lead us on a merry chase? Do we demonstrate gratitude for life by doing things we love to do and furthering the talents God has given us? Do we consistently, patiently, unselfishly, and sincerely practice love and forgiveness? Do we practice these same virtues towards ourselves? Continue reading “Balance”

Spoiling

Spoiling someone is not love. It creates misery for those who live the illusion that life rotates around them, that they are entitled. Spoiling loved ones is not an endearing quality of loving. It is a disservice to oneself and the loved one. This also applies to dogs. We may believe that we are unselfishly caring for our loved ones by putting their needs and desires before our own but, actually, we may simply be spoiling them. Love does what is truly best for the others’ long-term development and happiness. Spoiling someone is driven by insecurity – a desire to be liked, loved, approved of, and accepted. True love is driven by wisdom, self-confidence, unselfishness, and common sense. It seeks to encourage the growth of independence in the other so that true self-respect can germinate. Continue reading “Spoiling”

Spiritual Withdrawal

Some people will reach a point in their growth when they will wish to withdraw from the world. It is not the withdrawal of an antisocial or fearful person running away from the world. Short periods of withdrawal are, of course, beneficial to everyone. However, the type of withdrawal we are talking about is for the purpose of deep, spiritual transformation. It is the withdrawal of someone who is, generally, already competent in the world. Otherwise, our shortcomings will rise to pull us back into the world where they will be thrown at us again for educational reasons. Withdrawal is not really a choice, nor is it difficult. The attachment to the world will have already diminished and we will crave the solitude that seems to be the only way that we can connect to that which we seek. Continue reading “Spiritual Withdrawal”

Taking the Lead

It is best for the more spiritually advanced person in a relationship to take the lead in areas which require spiritual wisdom. In this way, both people will benefit and be free to continue their development unfettered. Many pitfalls will be avoided. If the lesser evolved person takes the lead then the other person will become frustrated in his or her being. The lesser evolved person will also have a tendency to remain at the level they feel comfortable with. To be spiritually more evolved is not synonymous with calling oneself spiritual. Many so-called spiritual people radiate superiority. Contrary to having a genuinely superior nature their lives are full of problems, relationship breakdowns, illness, and financial incompetence. Personal weaknesses such as pride, anger, emotional immaturity, jealousy, and denial about the state of one’s own being are frequently overlooked. Self-righteousness, moral superiority, and desire for control do not belong in the realm of the spiritually trustworthy. Continue reading “Taking the Lead”