Sex can be very healing. Healthy, balanced, and loving sex is beneficial to the wellness of the individual. Physically, it balances the body. Emotionally, it binds the couple, even for some time after a relationship may have changed form. Spiritually, it can pull the individual out of themselves. Far from the ugliness of selfish or troubled sex, good sex is a reminder of the beauty and blissful surrender of the higher self. In that domain, there is no division or craving. There is unity, expansiveness, and trust. The physical craving for sex in the human is the shadow of craving for total oneness with all that is beautiful.
At various times in our life, we may wish to transform sexual energy into higher energy which is useful for spiritual development. This can happen spontaneously and unconsciously such as when it is not possible to discharge sexual energy in a normal, healthy sexual relationship. It can, sometimes, happen that those in the process of intensive, creative work will temporarily cease sexual activity in order to channel all of their energy into their work. Top level athletes will often refrain from sexual activity before an important event in order to save their life-force for the task at hand. The lack of a suitable mate can trigger the automatic transfer of frustrated sexual energy into the higher energy centres where it will be used for the mental, creative, and spiritual progress of that individual.
To an extent, transforming sexual energy is an inbuilt and independent function of our being. Some physical activities can have the tendency to transfer sexual energy just by our participation in them. Physical activities which have a parallel higher purpose are most conducive to this process. Thoughtful contemplation and peaceful awareness can be practiced while walking. Harmony of body, mind, and spirit is engendered in yoga. A sincere, heartfelt connection is foundational to beautiful dancing, music, and art. It encourages the heart to focus on love and things invisible. It invites the soul to listen to the silent music of the interwoven notes of human existence. Challenging mental work or any work done in the right spirit, including housework and gardening, can have the same effect. In fact, those in the habit of continuous prayer know that everything is an opportunity for communion with God and inner consciousness work.