The bedroom is the place of surrender. It is where we surrender to sleep each night. As Dr. Hora would say, “Sleep is practising to die.” We release from the day, from our troubles and worries and from our excitements and projects. We surrender to unconsciousness, never knowing for sure if we will wake up again. And, of course, the bedroom is the place where we make love.
Sex asks for a surrender to our own body, as well as a surrender to the body of our loved one. However, sex is not only about surrender. It is also about wholeness. Our body, healthy and alive, is only the starting point of that wholeness. Our auric field is the far greater part. It is this energy field which we are giving to our partner in the bedroom. No matter what we do or don’t do, say or don’t say, this energy field is speaking so loudly that it will certainly override all other conversations.
If our energy field is looking to be completed by another person, it will be too busy asking, hoping, and cajoling to concentrate on bringing a whole person: strong, capable, warm, confident, free, and appreciative. We don’t ask our mate to complete us. We bring something worth bringing, to someone who wants and loves that something. If we don’t have that completeness then we need to look for it everywhere, every day, in every way we can. We will find that somewhere, least expected, there is a beautiful wholeness about us that was there all along but, somehow, for all the craving, looking, demanding, and begging, we failed to see.
Sex and Healing
Sex can be very healing. Healthy, balanced, and loving sex is beneficial to the wellness of the individual. Physically, it balances the body. Emotionally, it binds the couple, even long after a relationship may have changed form. Spiritually, it can pull the individual out of themselves. Far from the ugliness of selfish or troubled sex, good sex is a reminder of the beauty, joy, and blissful surrender of the spiritual realms. In those realms, there is no division or craving. There is unity, fulfilment, expansiveness, and trust.
When a person does not have a mate, the sexual momentum can be transferred into the higher energy centres. This will often happen automatically. It adds to the individual’s intellectual, emotional, and spiritual power. We are designed to evolve and we have many aids to help us with that task. The deliberate sublimation of sexual energy for spiritual purposes is a very valid practice and has its expressions in all religious cultures. Such traditions value celibacy for those very intent on spiritual progress. Generally speaking, it is best to do what we can to create the life we want and then to let destiny and the Divine work out the details.
The craving for sex in the human is the shadow of the spiritual craving for joining with all that is beautiful. That is why it is so highly valued and protected in relationships, without people even knowing why it is so precious and important. Ultimately, spiritual love is faithful not to a person but to Love itself, which will naturally include certain people. Love will choose not to hurt or harm. It will also choose not to stifle one’s being or live a life of repression or cut off another’s reaching out. From the highest spiritual perspective, in the less physical and more ethereal realms, these questions have no relevance. There is not only no infidelity but there is also no fidelity. Who would be the person that is being faithful? And to whom? Spiritual love encompasses everyone. All souls are boundless, complete, and free. We are, in our spiritual being, already married to everything Divine and separated from nothing good.
This article is from Love’s Longing