The Good Fight

Fighting, in some form or another, is natural for couples. Humans cannot live in such a connected space as coupledom without coming to terms, in one way or another, with the many misaligned components of themselves and their joint world. Just as every person is different, every combination of people is also different and so people naturally need to find their foundational rules with each other in a way that is agreeable to their own particular natures. For some couples, a certain less-than-enthusiastic look or word will be the extent of their fight but the effect will be the same as a big argument. It will send the couple into a self-examination of what was meant, if what was meant was right, and what to do about it. For other more robust couples with robust relationships, fighting can safely be a fairly major event. Continue reading “The Good Fight”

Likes and Attractions

Many people have a fear of being accused of liking someone. It is meant as a put-down. It implies we are pathetic and delusional about our own worth. In order to avoid any such implication, we can go to great lengths to make sure that we never extend the hand of friendship or open our heart to another, in case it is misconstrued or rejected. As one becomes more whole within oneself, one naturally becomes less able to be humiliated. To be able to humiliate someone is a sure way of keeping that person in check. However, if we are not easily humiliated then we have taken a great power from our enemies. Continue reading “Likes and Attractions”

Relationships and Affairs

Relationships don’t break down because of affairs. Relationships break down because of what is happening within the relationship itself. Affairs are the end result, not the precipitating factor. That doesn’t mean that the participants are aware of the breakdown and, even less, that they have openly communicated about it.

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