Being In Our Body

Not infrequently, people will say after a seemingly sudden illness, “I did not see that coming.” Yet, their body was probably screaming at them to listen. Denial, fear, ignorance, and laziness make us ignore the warning signs of any type of breakdown in our life. It is very common for people to live outside of their body and to be unaware of the conversation it is constantly having with them. We can become focused on career, family, and mortgage and the years pass by with often only a token look at the state of the body. Continue reading “Being In Our Body”

Need and Neediness

Unless we are a puppy, neediness is not cool. Neediness in humans over the age of five is not a winning approach to life. There is a difference between seeking and asking for what we truly need and neediness as a character trait. We have a tendency to be repelled by needy people. There is a part of us that would love to crawl up in a little ball on the sofa and call out to Mummy to feed us and Daddy to protect us. Most of us refrain from doing that. The most trustworthy assurance against neediness is an emotional and spiritual maturity which gives us a calm, quiet confidence. We know that there is a Higher Power or Life Principles which we can lean on so as not to lean too heavily on others. We accept everything good in life which comes from other people. However, we do not demand, coerce, beg or passively manipulate people into giving us anything. We get what we need by allowing the positive principles of Life to guide our steps. Continue reading “Need and Neediness”

The Energy Centres

One day, in my second year of ballroom dancing, I was dancing the Tango with one of my earlier teachers. Suddenly, I became aware of how active the chakra centres are in dancing. I refrained from mentioning this discovery to my then-teacher but only barely refrained. I had to remind myself that dancers are generally not spiritual students versed in the Eastern traditions. In the traditional ballroom holds, both bodies are touching or almost touching at numerous points and the hands are also touching. Combine the human hands and the chakra points of the individual and you have an open access for the flow of energy between two receptive people. Continue reading “The Energy Centres”

Appreciation

Dancing to the Same Rhythm

Dancing, at its best, is independence and intimacy in balance. As in all areas of life when people have to work closely together, dance couples often argue. Appreciation goes a long way in healing and transforming stressed relationships. Some time ago, my dance teacher decided to try and reduce the arguing which frequently accompanies the practice sessions. He asked his training couples to stand in a circle and then, one-by-one, to say something they sincerely appreciated about their partner. They did what he asked and, almost imperceptibly, a sense of peace seemed to breathe into the room. My teacher reminded his students that none of them could know how long they would have their dance partner or even their dancing career and it would be good to be grateful for their partner. The rest of the practice was indeed calm, cooperative, and harmonious. To dance with another person or to work or live or create anything with another person is a privilege. Such a thing cannot be bought, only freely given as the gift of oneself. It should be respected. Continue reading “Appreciation”

The Flame Ignites

I had resigned myself to the idea that dancing, for me, was going to be an unfulfilled yearning. In my mid-twenties, I had told myself that I was already too old for dancing and I had best transfer all such longings into a more suitable outlet. The dancing flame was buried and I took up the violin. Playing the violin was enjoyable enough but, you see, I wasn’t a musician. I was a dancer. Continue reading “The Flame Ignites”