Appreciation

Dancing to the Same Rhythm

Dancing, at its best, is independence and intimacy in balance. As in all areas of life when people have to work closely together, dance couples often argue. Appreciation goes a long way in healing and transforming stressed relationships. Some time ago, my dance teacher decided to try and reduce the arguing which frequently accompanies the practice sessions. He asked his training couples to stand in a circle and then, one-by-one, to say something they sincerely appreciated about their partner. They did what he asked and, almost imperceptibly, a sense of peace seemed to breathe into the room. My teacher reminded his students that none of them could know how long they would have their dance partner or even their dancing career and it would be good to be grateful for their partner. The rest of the practice was indeed calm, cooperative, and harmonious. To dance with another person or to work or live or create anything with another person is a privilege. Such a thing cannot be bought, only freely given as the gift of oneself. It should be respected. Continue reading “Appreciation”

The Flame Ignites

I had resigned myself to the idea that dancing, for me, was going to be an unfulfilled yearning. In my mid-twenties, I told myself that I was too old for dancing and I had best transfer all such longings into a more suitable outlet. The dancing flame was buried and I took up the violin. Playing the violin was enjoyable enough but, you see, I wasn’t a musician. I was a dancer. Continue reading “The Flame Ignites”

Balance

It is wise to do our very best in every area of life to improve our well-being and happiness. If we feel that our life is not balanced then it is a good idea to take stock of the energy we put into the various aspects of our being. Are we physically well? Do we need more exercise? Do we respect our body by giving it what it needs to eat? Are we physically ill in some way? Ignoring one’s physical problems is hardly a recipe for health. Are we mentally stressed? Do we take enough time each day, week, and year to relax and relieve our nervous system? Can we organise and prioritise our life so that we not suffering from constant nervous exertion? Many of our time problems are really priority issues. Do we challenge our mental capacities? Do we read and think about issues of importance to us? Do we take the opportunities to further our knowledge, understanding and, if appropriate, qualifications in our fields of interest? Do we monitor our emotions so that they do not lead us on a merry chase? Do we demonstrate gratitude for life by doing things we love to do and furthering the talents God has given us? Do we consistently, patiently, unselfishly, and sincerely practice love and forgiveness? Do we practice these same virtues towards ourselves? Continue reading “Balance”