Love’s Longing: Chapter 3 – The Love of Lovers

Pull to Partner
Almost universally, there is a strong pull within people to partner. If the pull is absent, it is usually because it has been replaced with an aversion to partnering which is the other side of the same coin. The pull to partner serves many beneficial functions. However, it is also the cause of endless heartache, craving, anger, fear, loneliness, emotional stress, and boredom. If it’s not one problem, it’s another. Yet, we are so reluctant to look at the root of the problem. Continue reading “Love’s Longing: Chapter 3 – The Love of Lovers”

Searching For Love

The search for love is a universal one. Yet, when it is found, it is soon replaced with problems, such as the reality of the other person, our own issues or the interference of other people and life. If there is not outward conflict then there is usually conflict within ourselves. To follow the search for personal love is unsatisfactory, yet, to reject the search is more unsatisfactory. Relationships are, generally, the most meaningful and powerful learning experience we tend to have in life. Continue reading “Searching For Love”

The Loss and Gain of Friendships

We all experience the loss of friends and changes in our relationships. It may be our decision, the other person’s, jointly decided or something thrust upon us by life. The loss may have come from something negative like jealousy, ill-will, anger or fear. It may have come from a decision based on what seemed best for all concerned. It may have been the natural outcome of something that life brought into the arena. Regardless, we can practise these principles of healing and growth: Continue reading “The Loss and Gain of Friendships”

Coping with Meanness

Apart from the love in life, everyone also has a lot of meanness that happens to them. Sometimes, it is brought on by our own actions or attitude. However, even if we are careful to keep a good attitude in life, there are countless times when others will have ill-will towards us. In fact, if we try to fulfil our potential in life then it is guaranteed that much of that meanness will come from jealousy. Continue reading “Coping with Meanness”

Tyranny and Freedom

Most people would not think of themselves as tyrants, yet, emotional tyranny is a very common trait. It is submission, in some form, which is being coerced. Such a person will automatically tend to surround themselves with weaker people. Anyone who is equally as strong or stronger will have been extradited. The thing that is often desired is respect. Continue reading “Tyranny and Freedom”