When Men Rule

In many dance forms, including ballroom dancing, men rule. They rule not because of some innate quality which makes them better rulers, but because of the principles of demand and supply. There are a lot more female dancers than male, and so a good male dancer is valuable. Simple economics. Nothing wrong with that, however, as one would expect, good male dancers can become egocentric and controlling in the same way that CEOs can. Also, as expected, women can become submissive add-ons or, alternatively, partnerless dancers incapable of starting/maintaining a long-term dance connection. Continue reading “When Men Rule”

Circles of Separation: Handspun

“We’re our own worst enemy,” said Wolfgang.  “We’re, also, our own best friend.”

Chapter 54: Best Friend

Tonight was the last Dementia Unit dance class. Wolfgang was in fine form and had been talking nonstop. “I like making a noise,” he joked. “I should have been a politician. Do you know that I come here every morning to have breakfast with my Madeline?”

“No,” said Gabriel. “That’s devoted.” Continue reading “Circles of Separation: Handspun”

The Good Fight

Fighting, in some form or another, is natural for couples. Humans cannot live in such a connected space as coupledom without coming to terms, in one way or another, with the many misaligned components of themselves and their joint world. Just as every person is different, every combination of people is also different and so people naturally need to find their foundational rules with each other in a way that is agreeable to their own particular natures. For some couples, a certain less-than-enthusiastic look will be the extent of their fight but the effect will be the same as a big argument. It will send the couple into a self-examination of what was meant, if what was meant was right, and what to do about it. For other more robust couples, fighting will be a major event. Continue reading “The Good Fight”