Category: healing and spirituality

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Love’s Longing Update

I have made a major update to Love’s Longing, one of my earlier books, first published in 2016. It has been carefully re-edited and given a fresh presentation, with beautiful new images throughout and a cleaner, easier-to-read format.

Love’s Longing is special in that it holds many stories from my own life—from childhood, adolescence, and young adulthood, as well as from family life and the years that followed.

Most of the stories are not particularly dramatic. They are the sorts of things that make up all our lives: something funny a child did, something unexpectedly wise someone said, a fear that had to be faced, a change of direction no one saw coming, a relationship that taught something, or a difficult experience that eventually revealed a different way forward.

The stories create an energy field through which the larger spiritual ideas can be felt rather than just known in the mind. We all have these stories. The details may differ, but beneath them lie profound archetypal human experiences that lead to even more profound spiritual experiences.

Love’s Longing
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How to Be a Healer

I have started writing a new book called How to Be a Healer, which I will publish in 2027. Here is the introduction.

How to Be a Healer: Introduction

This book is not about healing techniques, although it does include some technique. It is about being the kind of person whose presence heals. 

We all have the ability to help other people heal, grow, see more clearly, and reconnect with themselves. Some people do this as psychologists, medical personnel, or complementary therapists. Others do it as parents, teachers, artists, or as kind human beings. In essence, healing is not a profession. It is a way of being.

If you are drawn to this book, you must already know, at some level, that you are a healer. You might not have used that word about yourself before or considered turning it into a profession, but you want to ease suffering and bring more peace into the world. You care.

Continue reading “How to Be a Healer”
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Sleep Tracking and Beyond

I recently got a small health tracker to wear on my wrist. After the first night, it told me how long I had slept, how much time I had spent in deep, REM, and light sleep, and even gave me a sleep score. Science has many explanations for what happens during sleep: memories are consolidated, emotions processed, tissues repaired, and the brain carries out essential maintenance.

Spiritual traditions often add another possibility: that while the body rests, consciousness becomes less restricted by physical life. Dreams may include ordinary emotional processing, but they may also feel like encounters, journeys, continuing relationships, or experiences in realities beyond the waking world. My tracker can measure what my body is doing at night. What it cannot measure is where consciousness may be going.

—Consciousness Continuing COMING 2027

Consciousness Series
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Cake and Courage

When I left my first marriage at thirty-three, I had two young children, no work outside the home, and very little understanding of what a property settlement would mean. After my first meeting with a lawyer, I went downstairs to an expensive city cafe and ordered tea and cake. I remember thinking, This could be the last time I ever sit somewhere like this and order something without worrying about the cost. Then another thought came just as clearly: Nevertheless, this is still the right decision. This is still worth it.

That small moment stayed with me because courage rarely comes with certainty. Sometimes it means choosing what feels true without knowing what it will cost or how things will turn out. The tea and cake became a quiet acknowledgement of that choice: I am willing to pay whatever this costs, because not choosing it would cost me more.

Consciousness Continuing COMING 2027

Consciousness Series
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Consciousness Continuing: Many Lives in One

I have long felt that I’ve lived many lifetimes inside one life. Entire worlds have closed behind me and new ones opened — different relationships, places, identities, priorities, and ways of being. Looking back, some of those periods feel less like chapters of one continuous life and more like complete realities in their own right.

Perhaps change is not always about slowly improving the same self. Sometimes we move into a different experiential world where another version of us becomes possible. Seen this way, we do not have to remain loyal to past identities simply because we once inhabited them. We are allowed to move, reconfigure, and enter a life that fits who we are now.

—Consciousness Continuing COMING 2027

Consciousness Series
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The Voice that Doesn’t Belong to You

Many people know what they want: greater peace, freedom, abundance, meaningful work, and nourishing relationships. Yet another voice often runs quietly underneath those intentions. It sounds like caution or realism: This is just the way things are. Now isn’t the right time. I’ve tried before. It probably won’t work. I should prepare for the worst. Because the voice sounds sensible, we can mistake it for truth.

A more helpful response is not to fight with it, but to recognise that it is only one way of thinking. Things may be less fixed than they seem. Clarity often comes through movement. Fear does not always mean stop. Other people’s beliefs do not determine what is possible for us. We are free to change our minds, choose differently, and pay attention to the thoughts that move us towards the life we actually want.

—Consciousness Continuing COMING 2027

Consciousness Series
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Spirituality — Spoken or Felt

Some spiritual teachings help us through words and concepts. They give us language for what we believe, what we are experiencing, and where we are going. Other teachings work more quietly. Much is left unsaid. Instead of explaining, they work through presence, tone, beauty, silence, or vibration. We may not be able to say exactly what they have done, only that something within us has shifted.

Both have value, but felt spirituality asks us to loosen our need for explanation and definition. There is less to hold onto, repeat, or identify with. For some people, that feels uncomfortable; for others, it feels like home. Words may help us find the path, but sometimes the deepest part of the journey begins when the words fall away.

—Consciousness Continuing COMING 2027

Consciousness Series
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Grief: Loss or Learning

When we lose someone deeply woven into the fabric of our lives—it could be a partner, a parent, a child, a sibling, or a close friend—grief is the natural human response. When lives have been intimately shared, their absence forces us to find a new way of being, sometimes at many different levels. 

Your connection with your loved one is irreplaceable and unbroken. The question is how you wish to experience this human journey and whether you choose to allow grief to become a doorway into transformation and a deeper awareness of love.

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Inwards or Outwards: Preference and Purpose

At a certain stage of spiritual evolution, solitude arises naturally. It is not avoidance, but a way of keeping one’s field clear. Ordinary interaction can feel noisy, fear-driven, or self-reinforcing. Solitude restores clarity.

But not everyone at this stage of consciousness seeks solitude. Some are drawn into human fields because their life purpose is to serve, teach, or engage. Probably, more than half of seekers at this level find that their path requires long stretches of nature or withdrawal. The remaining are called outward. Their purpose demands a greater tolerance for and enjoyment of human interaction. The difference is not about higher or lower, but purpose.

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A Walk in the Park: The Company We Keep on the Spiritual Path

As you mature spiritually, the tendency toward solitude is very common. The reasons for this are:

  1. The field of the collective is keenly felt—you’re porous enough to be affected, even though you can hold steady for stretches.
  2. You’ve outgrown fear-driven socialising, so you don’t need interaction for validation or distraction.
  3. You seek resonance. As resonance is frequently absent in human situations, solitude feels like a better frequency match.

The question is not really whether we choose aloneness or togetherness, but what frequency we are vibrating at. If people are honest, most encounters with others are shaped by fear, by the need for reassurance, or by the desire to confirm a sense of self. These patterns are so common that they feel normal, but what is sought always fails to fulfil.