In close relationships, especially partner relationships, there’s a subtle but important line. On one side, it’s about standing on our own two feet — emotionally, financially, practically, energetically, and in whatever ways apply in our situation. We don’t do this out of fear or self-protection, but out of respect for ourselves and the other person. We don’t want to be a burden. We want to be a positive contribution to their life, to bring ourselves into the relationship in a genuine, giving way.
But the other side matters just as much. What is the other person actually offering us? They need to bring something meaningful into our life. It may not be meaningful to everyone, but it has to be meaningful to us. Otherwise, what are we really doing together? It’s not about blame or accusation. It’s about being honest, and caring enough about the relationship to be truthful.
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