Little acts of love and goodwill help to soothe the pain of human hurt and ease the complexities of ongoing existence. It reduces the pain of change and helps us to move forward in life, accepting the altered routes and enthusiastically embracing new terrains. We learn to accept change graciously. Continue reading “Nonresistance”
Asking For What We Want
Some years ago, I was thrilled to be accepted for lessons by a ballroom teacher who was an accomplished ballroom competitor, a sensitive dancer, and a lovely man. He was very busy with life, fully booked as a dance teacher, and only gave half hour lessons. I was grateful to be able to have lessons with him at all, however, half an hour, once a week, was just not enough for me. I was used to longer lessons and it was my only opportunity to dance ballroom in a way that I enjoyed. At the end of my first lesson, I decided to be brave and ask for what I wanted.
While convalescing in hospital after an operation, Margaret Montague had an unexpected and beautiful experience of life as it really is.
Emotional pain is an unavoidable part of life. There is no more certain reminder that we are not in control of our own life. It leaves us standing stunned and grasping for relief. Strangely, we need not run from it and hide. We can meet the wild beast of pain in its own territory, as inadequately prepared as we may feel. Continue reading “The Wild Beast of Pain”
It is our deepest hurts which have the power to help and heal us. What else carries an internal fire big enough to force us forwards? What else has the momentum to wake us up? What else has enough pain to make us long for something better? What else will drive us into the waiting arms of that beautiful, invisible life-force which yearns to help us? What else will teach us to feel the love which has no betrayal; the love which seeks only good? Naturally, most of us feel uncomfortable with intense emotion. We do not know how to deal with fear, sadness, and anger and so we repress them. Continue reading “Walking through the Dark Places”
One of the more damaging things that can happen in life is sexual abuse. That is particularly so when it comes from a parent or a religious figure who are meant to carry the purity of love and guardianship. It leaves the body of the victim with a distrust and disgust of one of nature’s most brilliant inventions – the human body capable of and programmed for sexual bonding. Continue reading “Healing Childhood Abuse”