What makes intimacy work?
- Self-acceptance. A person who accepts their own body can accept another’s. Without this, sex becomes a struggle with shame or resistance.
- Presence. You do not need spiritual knowledge to be present. You only need to be there—not lost in thought, not somewhere else.
- Equality. Sex needs to be an equal exchange, a shared creation. Both must feel that their experience matters—not as pretence, but in truth.
- Fearlessness. Fear closes the body. Trust opens it. When there is a sense that “however this unfolds, it’s alright,” the body relaxes and energy rises. Even if it doesn’t work, then that is the unfoldment. It is that way for a reason, usually to learn something valuable.
