Sex as a Moving Meditation

Many good people carry with them sexual inhibitions and guilt. Sexual desires are a normal and natural part of being human. Avoidance, fear, guilt, and prudishness about sex have no place in a healthy, balanced perspective on life. If we are relaxed, grateful, considerate, and confident then our sexual relationship with our loved one will probably be happy, problem-free, and satisfying for both people or, at least, it will be moving in that direction. We can acquire an attitude to sex which is liberating, caring, and open. From a spiritual perspective, we can enjoy it in the same way that we enjoy every other beautiful and pleasant thing in the human experience – with not too much attachment but not repressive and condemnatory. Continue reading “Sex as a Moving Meditation”

Following Interests as an Adult

It is wonderful when people take up something as an adult that they have always wanted to do but, for one reason or another, couldn’t previously do. It is often that as a child they did not have the opportunity to follow an interest, probably, because their family was busy raising them and their siblings and surviving life. The activity may be taken up as soon as we become a young adult and start making serious decisions about our life direction and where we want to spend our time and money. Sometimes, the activity can be taken up much later in life when the demands of children, mate, and work are in a different category of required input. Here are a few guidelines for those who take up dancing as an adult. Continue reading “Following Interests as an Adult”

Being In Our Body

Not infrequently, people will say after a seemingly sudden illness, “I did not see that coming.” Yet, their body was probably screaming at them to listen. Denial, fear, ignorance, and laziness make us ignore the warning signs of any type of breakdown in our life. It is very common for people to live outside of their body and to be unaware of the conversation it is constantly having with them. We can become focused on career, family, and mortgage and the years pass by with often only a token look at the state of the body. Continue reading “Being In Our Body”

Making Mistakes

If we find it difficult to admit to mistakes, it is often because we have a harsh inner critic. Admitting to any mistake will inevitably mean heavy recrimination. Sigmund Freud called the inner critic, the superego. It monitors the behaviour of the individual. For numerous reasons, many people end up with very brutal and unforgiving superegos. And so, what choice does such a person have but to avoid admitting mistakes in order to avoid harsh treatment? Many of these same people will project those mistakes onto innocent others in their lives. I am sure it has happened to you that the very thing someone else is and you are not, is suddenly being thrust upon you as your own character trait. And more, there is no reasoning with the person who seems incapable of looking at themselves rationally. Continue reading “Making Mistakes”

Glowing

How sweetly one glows when one is imbued with love. Some time ago, I attended a talk given by a swami. A swami is the equivalent of a monk or nun, one who has renounced ordinary social life for the dedicated following of a religious path or teacher. I instantly liked her. She radiated calmness, intelligence, and kindness. Her talk was on love and sweetness. One of the endearing things she said was that when we have developed our capacity to love, we will not need to wear perfume because the body will have a beautiful, sweet smell. Love is demonstrated by our undivided attention and genuine interest in another’s well-being. The loving individual has the capacity to look people in the eye with quiet confidence and sincere concern. Whenever we move into a loving space, we lift our consciousness and become a beacon of light. Our aim is to be that consistently – a truly healing presence. Continue reading “Glowing”

Balance

It is wise to do our very best in every area of life to improve our well-being and happiness. If we feel that our life is not balanced then it is a good idea to take stock of the energy we put into the various aspects of our being. Are we physically well? Do we need more exercise? Do we respect our body by giving it what it needs to eat? Are we physically ill in some way? Ignoring one’s physical problems is hardly a recipe for health. Are we mentally stressed? Do we take enough time each day, week, and year to relax and relieve our nervous system? Can we organise and prioritise our life so that we not suffering from constant nervous exertion? Many of our time problems are really priority issues. Do we challenge our mental capacities? Do we read and think about issues of importance to us? Do we take the opportunities to further our knowledge, understanding and, if appropriate, qualifications in our fields of interest? Do we monitor our emotions so that they do not lead us on a merry chase? Do we demonstrate gratitude for life by doing things we love to do and furthering the talents God has given us? Do we consistently, patiently, unselfishly, and sincerely practice love and forgiveness? Do we practice these same virtues towards ourselves? Continue reading “Balance”